The Bridge Between Music and Nostalgia


Music, at its essence, is what gives us memories. And the longer a song has existed in our lives, the more memories we have of it.

– Stevie Wonder


If I had to count the number of times music has helped me get through less-than-ideal moments in life, I would need a gazillion fingers and a time machine. Superficially, we all know that music has the astounding ability to evoke a wide array of powerful emotions within us, and one such emotion is nostalgia. All of us have experienced nostalgia at some point in our lives – the longing or sentimental yearning or feeling for the past – but whether it is bittersweet or melancholic depends on the person and their experiences. From time to time, certain songs or pieces of music may trigger vivid memories and transport us back to a particular period or place. A song associated with your first love, first heartbreak, a cross-country road trip, or something your mum and dad used to play at home – does any of this sound familiar? Well, in this blog post, we will be exploring that very connection between music and nostalgia and also attempt to explain why music has such a strong grip on our memories and emotions.

Now, contrary to popular belief, the concept of “nostalgia” has existed for centuries. It is even more interesting to note that the word “nostalgia” originates from two Greek words, “nostos” and “algos,” which mean “return” and “pain,” respectively. This makes sense because initially, nostalgia was thought to be a disease or medical condition, and it was linked to homesickness. But in the present day and age, we know nostalgia is not an ailment but a natural human emotion which can be triggered in so many ways – one of the most sure-fire triggers being music.

Now why is music so “nostalgic” to us human beings? Quick hint – it has something to do with our memories. Our brains have this innate ability to associate music with specific memories and emotions, and according to several leading research studies, it has been shown that music can activate the same regions of the brain that are involved in emotional and memory-based information processing. Scientists have also been able to prove that music “activates the entire brain,” which is super cool when you think about it.

Another reason why music is so effective in initiating nostalgia is that certain songs often tend to be linked to significant life events, all thanks to our limbic system (the system that stores all your fears and emotions). For many people, a favourite song may remind them, for example, of their first love or a special moment in their lives. Since these moments have a heavy significance in our lives owing to “high emotional intensity,” the music essentially gets intertwined like many other things (the color of your partner’s dress, the smile they wore, and so on), creating a powerful connection between the two. Consequently, music is known to create a sense of comfort and familiarity. Many people find that listening to music from their childhood or teenage years provides them with an “auditory haven,” a way for them to return back to simpler, carefree times. The reason for this sentiment is that the music we listened to during our yester-years becomes a part of our identity and shapes our perceptions of the world around us. So, if we hear the same exact song years later, it brings back those lived-through memories from our subconscious mind to the forefront.

It is also interesting to note that the relationship between music and nostalgia can be different for different people. While some people find that certain songs or pieces of music strongly trigger their nostalgia, the same may not be applicable to another individual, thus forming a degree of contextuality. Our memories, experiences, and emotions are unique to us, and that plays a massive role in the feelings certain songs may bring into our psyche.

Now, so far, we have been talking about music-linked nostalgia on an individual level but how can we take this to a broader scale? As of late, you may have noticed that many movies and TV shows use classical hits to create a sense of nostalgia and transport viewers back in time. Let me take two very memorable movies that use this trope to their advantage – “Guardians of the Galaxy” and “Baby Driver.” For those of you who have watched these movies, you know very well the significance of music in them. Whether it be Star Lord’s Walkman or Baby’s iPod; the movies truly would not be the same without them. Additionally, the inclusion of these wistful songs creates a sense of nostalgia on a larger scale as audiences who have grown up with these specific songs will most likely connect on an emotional level.

To put everything in a nutshell, the relationship between music and nostalgia is complex and multifaceted. Music has the power to evoke powerful emotions and transport us back in time, reminding us of significant life events and creating a sense of familiarity and comfort. While the way we respond to music is unique to each individual, there is no doubt that it plays a very significant role in our lives.

Questions:

  1. What is a song that reminds you of your childhood? Was it a song you came across yourself, or was it recommended by someone else?
  2. How do you think the use of music in movies and TV shows contributes to our collective sense of nostalgia? Can you think of any examples of movies or shows that use music in this way?
  3. In what ways do you think music can be used to help us process and cope with difficult emotions like nostalgia and grief? Have you ever used music in this way, and if so, how did it help you?

The Impact of Music on The Life of An Individual

Music is a big part of most, if not all, of our lives. It is something we grew up with, whether it was by falling asleep to our mom’s favorite song in the car, or a rock band we were captivated with in our ‘rebellious teenager’ phase. It has, quite literally, always been there for us. You’re in a good mood? Put on some happy music. Feeling down? Put on some sad music. Need a confidence booster? Put on some upbeat music. Point is, music has always been something we could rely on to cope with our emotions and understand them better.

Lyrics

A fundamental aspect of a song is its lyrics. Although music itself is enough to make a person feel a specific emotion, lyrics do form an integral part of songs. Barradas in “When words matter: A cross-cultural perspective on lyrics and their relationship to musical emotions” mentions that lyrics help people explore and understand their feelings better. When artists write music and sing about something that could be relatable to most people, it gives them a sense of comfort because they know they’re not alone.

Additionally, lyrics help put into words feelings and experiences that most people are unable to express on their own. So in a way, certain songs could be the voice for people who don’t know how to convey their message the way they want to. This can be seen in many aspects of our lives. For instance, when your best friend sends you a song with a text right after that says, “THIS IS LITERALLY OUR SONG!!!”, wouldn’t you focus on the lyrics to see what they’re trying to say? Or how about when your partner makes you a Spotify playlist? How often are songs added to that playlist because they express your partner’s feelings through their lyrics?

How Music Affected My Life

There was a point of time in my life where I was really confused about the way I felt toward certain concepts; specifically love. I always knew that I was a person that loved to love, but what I didn’t know was that I loved being in love. I felt like I was alone in this experience and I started viewing myself as someone who wasn’t normal. That was, until I came across my favorite band: The Neighbourhood. I discovered their song “Void” and instantly became obsessed with it.

Thought you could better me but

Then you stopped lettin’ me walk

Now you’re just settin’ me off

So I’m tryna lose you

https://genius.com/The-neighbourhood-void-lyrics

Analyzing the Lyrics

  1. For a long time, I’ve been chasing love because I felt like I needed to be in love with someone to feel alive. I used to believe that love “could better me” because having a partner would allow me to rely on them and be taken care of. But what I didn’t realize was that there are also negative sides to being in love.
  2. It felt like love “stopped letting me walk” in a sense that I felt restricted, like I had no freedom to do what I wanted or prioritize the more important things in my life.
  3. Love started “setting me off”. I was angry. I didn’t like the fact that I was addicted to being in love. It was an endless loop of liking someone and then moving on to the next person, and I was desperate for it to end
  4. So I tried to lose it. I started working on myself and trying to experience newer things to show me that there was way more to life than just being in love.

These specific lyrics always felt personal to me because I could relate to them on a deeper level. They helped me realize that I was in fact, not alone, and definitely not weird for feeling the way I did. I was able to think about my thoughts and feelings and how I could work on them to be a better version of myself, so in a way, it’s safe to say that this song changed me.

Another fascinating thing about lyrics in songs is that it can be interpreted in any way. For example, the exact lyrics that I mentioned above could also be analyzed to be talking about being addicted to drugs, rather than the concept of love itself. And according to Genius, the songwriter did have a past with drugs, which goes to show that lyrics can easily be molded into whatever notion a person wants it to be. There isn’t a wrong or right answer when it comes to analyzing lyrics, it all depends on the way you think and view the world. I’ve come across people who have had completely different views on the lyrics of ‘Void’, and that’s okay! Their interpretations are still valid because they coincide with their thoughts and experiences.

The Benefits of Listening to Music

Apart from the emotional benefits of listening to music, there are quite a few health benefits too. According to Johns Hopkins Medicine, music helps reduce anxiety and improves sleep quality as well as memory. It is mentioned that music is seen to be a great workout for the mind as it aids in boosting creativity, and allows us to recollect memories that are easily associated with the music being played. Music also plays a vital role in increasing our mental health. Most people use music as a coping mechanism or an escape to reality when the world starts getting too loud for them.

Overall, music is something that allows people to delve deeper into their thoughts and emotions, and it helps people connect with one another, whether it is directly (by recommending songs or listening to songs with your loved ones), or indirectly (by relating to different people’s experiences through lyrics and their meanings).

Questions

  1. Has music ever helped you through a rough patch in life?
  2. What are your opinions on analyzing song lyrics and the impact it can have on an individual?
  3. How has music contributed in increasing your creativity and analytical thinking?

References:

https://genius.com/The-neighbourhood-void-lyrics

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/keep-your-brain-young-with-music#:~:text=Research%20has%20shown%20that%20listening,%2C%20mental%20alertness%2C%20and%20memory.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/03057356211013390#body-ref-bibr17-03057356211013390

How Authors Create Credibility, Depth and Meaning in Writing

I wisely started with a map, and made the story fit

J.R.R. Tolkien
Map of Beleriand, the world of The Silmarillion by J.R.R. Tolkien

To put it plainly, worldbuilding is the process of creating, constructing and developing a fictional world. This imaginary universe, with all its corresponding history and geography, will serve as the setting of the work, whether it is a novel or a poem, or a visual medium like film, comics or video games.

The world authors create could cover vast expanses of land, sea and space or it could be confined within the boundaries of a town. They could fill the world with all sorts of flora and fauna, a multitude of different kinds and races inhabitants, invented history and languages. They can approach this in many ways, using top-down worldbuilding or bottom-up worldbuilding, building off a primary world to create a secondary world or creating a uchronia. The key is to create something that is believable, meaningful and something that has real depth.

How language structures and forms the way we think.

Quite frankly, there are approximately 7,000 languages, being spoken around the world. Each with its own set of sounds, vocabularies, and structures. But do they influence and shape how we think? Lera Boroditsky, a language and cognition professor, presented a ted talk on how languages “shape” and change the way we think. Moreover, The talk has received a whopping 10 million views on youtube, at this current date. Having talked about how languages differentiate themselves in the way we think about counting, looking at different colors and responding to others; Boroditsky recognized there are interactional differences between languages.

Shockingly, it is extremely fascinating how Boroditsky talks about how languages have these intrinsic traits to identify and interact in different ways. She uses the example of the Russian language, having different terms for shades of colors. This allows them to identify changes in color without thinking, due to their language in identifying the shades. Other examples like the Kuuk Thaayorre people in Cape York Australia, being able to use there senses as a compass. According to Boroditsky, they are able to close their eyes and tell you where the direction of “South West” is for example. Finally, she talks about how different languages, using the example of English and Spanish, having different meanings to their responses when an incident occurs. Boroditsky mentions how languages like Spanish, having an approach that is less to blame for the person commiting the incident. She uses an example of breaking a vase. Even if someone broke the vase, either by accident or intentionally, they would mention “the vase broke” instead of he or she broke the vase. This could indicate how Spanish speakers have identified the sense of not shaming others in the mistakes they do. Moreover, Boroditsky mentions, due to the not mentioning who broke the vase in this case, they are less likely to recall who did it and the situation as a whole.

Personally, i was shocked to hear this, how languages could help enhance or add traits that can be useful in your life. Learning the language of the Kuuk Thaayorre people for example, could help me identify routes when camping or hiking. I may not even have to use Google maps anymore! Moreover, learning the Russian language could help me identify shades colors as well as other undiscovered artifacts. Finally, learning the Spanish language could help with more discipline and respect when it comes to shaming and blaming. With over 7000 languages in the wild, the possibilities are limitless. You never know what could happen in 10 years time, maybe languages become skills in itself, that could help you in your life.

Discussion Questions

Could learning languages be the new way to learn different skills and traits? (Persuading, Critical thinking for example)

What languages do you speak and what are some traits and differences to other languages you have identified?

Normal People

Marianne, he said, I’m not a religious person but I do sometimes think God made you for me.

Sally Rooney, Normal People, pg. 113

Last winter break, my social media feeds were bombarded by edits of the show Normal People. Eventually, I decided to give in, but rather than watching the TV adaptation, I decided to read the book.

Sally Rooney’s Normal People is a love story between the two young protagonists, Marianne and Connell, set in Ireland in the 2010’s. However beyond the romance, the story explores many more topics such as mental health, identity, and most notably class – which I will focus on in this post.


Style and Structure

Sally Rooney’s style of writing is infamous for its unusual emission of quotation marks. Initially, that irritated and confused me, however as I continued reading, I got accustomed and even started to appreciate that choice. It became apparent to me how this mirrors the couple’s tendency to miscommunicate – a main theme in this story. In addition, the novel manages to further portray the dynamic between the two main protagonists through not only it structure but also the first line:

Marianne answers the door when Connell rings the bell.

Sally Rooney, Normal People, pg. 1

This line accentuates how Marianne would always be there for Connell, and how she would do anything he would ask for.

Another remarkable element of the story’s structure is how the events are timed. The chapters are in chronological order, each chapter usually corresponding to a specific week or month. Each chapter starts off with the present tense, and then switches to a flashback, which is indicated by the shift to the past tense. Finally, the chapter goes back to the setting it started with, and goes back to the present tense. This is to convey how the present is influenced by the past, and how previous events shape our mindsets and future actions and attitudes.


Sally Rooney, the author of the novel.

Class

As a Marxist, I think that class is sort of the structuring principle of our social life. So then when it comes to writing a novel, of course I have to be attentive to the way that class structures social life. Otherwise I’m not writing about the world that we really inhabit.

Sally Rooney

One of the most prominent concepts conveyed in the book is how class affects a person’s life and their interactions with other people, especially those from a different class. Marianne is part of the upper class and lives in a big mansion, whereas Connell is part of the working class. In fact, his mother is a single mother who works as a cleaner in Marianne’s family home. Although both of the protagonists share many interests and opinions, this integral difference influences their mindsets in many ways.

A notable example of that is when they both applied for a scholarship in Trinity College. For Connell, it would be of practical help, as it would remove a huge financial burden off his and his mother’s shoulders. On the other hand, for Marianne, who does not struggle to pay for rent nor tuition, earning it would simply be “a matter of reputation” (pg. 138).

Another way the writer highlights the significance of social class is how although both Marianne and Connell are intelligent, people perceive their intellectuality in different ways. In Trinity College where elitism pervades, students idolize Marianne and appreciate her intellect, meanwhile, they look down upon Connell with disdain. Connell also realized the relationship between social class and education, and that upper class people yield to literary works to appear cultured, rather than to educate themselves.


All in all, this novel is more than just an emotional coming-of-age love story. It exemplifies how relationships are affected by factors beyond the characters, as there are several external circumstances such as class. As well as that, it effectively lets the readers into the characters’ minds, not only demonstrating what they think, but also why they think in that way. Personally, what I enjoyed most about this book is how realistic and well-rounded the characters are; your feelings and thoughts about them will change as you read on.


Questions for Further Discussion

  1. How do you think social class and education are related?
  2. In what ways do you think that the structure of a text influences its meaning?

Links

https://baos.pub/3-interesting-themes-in-sally-rooneys-normal-people-6963539751cf#:~:text=Normal%20People%20is%20the%20story,way%20back%20to%20each%20other.

https://www.vice.com/en/article/3kyw8b/sally-rooneys-new-book-normal-people-will-teach-you-about-yourself

On the Resilience of Reading

The world: Reading is dying, reading is dead, RIP reading (Ancient Sumerians – 2023)
Mohsin Hamid: Uh guys I can hear you

Last weekend, I attended a talk by the Pakistani writer, Mohsin Hamid, at the Emirates Airline Festival of Literature. While the talk was about his last novel, what stayed with me the most was a comment Hamid made about the future of reading. He insisted that, despite panicked predictions of books becoming museum artifacts, and writing being an aging art on its deathbed, reading will continue to offer people something valuable and irreplaceable. 

Hamid’s argument

Hamid argued that reading is unique in that it is an act of co-creation and collaboration–a kind of contract, I would say–between the reader and writer. While our conversations around writing tend to center around the writer, no story is complete until it finds a reader because technically, words on a page are still, soundless things; they are printed symbols with no audiovisual component, no reel of images to guide or shape what you should see.

A book truly comes alive when it enters the chamber of a reader’s mind and become their–your–own private story like a beam of light refracted through the lens of your life experiences, or a customized film projected onto your mind’s eye. It’s this unique quality, Hamid argues, that will allow reading to survive in today’s oversaturated media landscape.

Hamid extended his argument by pointing to film adaptations of books and the passionate debate they inspire. Think of a time when you watched, or heard of, a film adaptation and thought: ‘Jail!’ According to Hamid, most criticisms of adaptations are readers mourning the loss of the world they had conjured in their head (think The Hunger Games or Harry Potter). For the reader, every movie director of a book adaptation is a dictator overthrowing their sacred, private universe. ‘What about my world?’, asks the wounded reader. 

A controversial Netflix adaptation of Jane Austen’s saddest novel, Persuasion
Jane Austen: You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope.
Netflix:
… a bunny?

My thoughts

I find Hamid’s argument compelling for the way that it forces us to reimagine our traditional understanding of reading. Typically–and I say this as someone who has related to this position in the past–we think of reading as a static, passive role, both physically (as in reading is just sitting and staring at a book), and emotionally (all readers read identically/all readers are interchangeable).

But Hamid’s line of reasoning transforms reading into a dynamic process and repositions the reader as a co-producer of a book. I would even argue that when we read, we juggle several roles–of cinematographer and casting director and set and costume designer, all at once. We weave entire worlds out of words, animate mute, inky symbols with life. 

Fragonard, 1769. Young Girl Reading.

This maybe explains why reading often feels intensely private, intimate, even transcendent. The most rewarding reading experiences occur in a time warp where time slows and is suspended; they collapse time and dissolve distance between the writer and reader until a 19th century Brazilian author is speaking to you, a 21st century student, in a cross-century conversation that feels like a communion.

This is the marvel of reading: it’s deceptively simple–so sedentary, so silent–but equally poignant and powerful. It’s this tension between appearance and experience that’s one of the most enjoyable things about reading. Who is to say what vivid, heart-wrenching, glorious, piercing film plays in your mind when you sit down to read, but you? 

Some critiques

If I were to disagree with Hamid, it’s only to say that I think his argument, as powerful as it is, can be extended to many art forms. Films, visual art, music: the best of any art form establishes a dialogue between the artist and the audience. It offers a simulation of life that allows us to return to Real Life with more clarity, perhaps even courage.

I also believe that reading will survive, but maybe not in the way that Hamid imagines. With the rise of audiobooks and ‘BookTok/BookTube/Bookstagram’–two phenomena that deserve posts of their own–reading is reinventing itself. So while Hamid is an old-school physical books purist, today and tomorrow’s generations will probably read, but the act of reading may shape-shift.

All said and done, though, I can understand Hamid’s impulse to champion reading. He is, after all, a writer, and I suspect it isn’t the most cheerful thing to hear people rushing to write eulogies of your livelihood. In the 21st century evolution of entertainment and a Survival of the Fittest, all Mohsin Hamid is trying to do is bet on reading making it to the end. I would bet on it too.

Questions for discussion:

  1. What are your thoughts on the future of reading? Do you agree with Hamid? Will it become a thing of the past, or does it have what it takes to survive?
  2. How is reading similar to and/or different from your favorite forms of entertainment?
  3. Do you have a favorite, or least favorite, movie adaptation of a book? Have you ever felt strongly about a film adaptation? If so, why?

If you want to hear from Hamid himself…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mohsin-hamid-discusses-the-last-white-man/id452692811?i=1000576465680

Links

https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/persuasion-poster-photos-dakota-johnson-henry-golding

https://www.nga.gov/collection/art-object-page.46303.html

Myths about Bilingualism!

It is fascinating how many people have misconceptions about bilingualism and its effect on a child’s delay in speaking. People repetitively ask questions like these:

  • Won’t kids be confused learning two languages at once?
  • Won’t being bilingual or teaching a child more than one language cause speech delay?
  • Would you ever be fluent in a language if you don’t learn a language at an early stage?

Bilingualism causes speech/language delay

THAT IS A MYTH!

While a bilingual child’s vocabulary in each language may be smaller than average, his total vocabulary, from both languages, will be at least as large as that of a monolingual child. Bilingual children may say their first words slightly later than monolingual children, but they will say them within the normal age range (8-15 months).

When bilingual children begin to produce short sentences, they develop grammar in the same patterns and timelines as monolingual children. Language delay is not caused by bilingualism. A bilingual child who is experiencing significant delays in language milestones may be suffering from a language disorder and should be evaluated by a speech language pathologist.

Another common misunderstanding about bilingualism is the assumption that one is incapable of being fluent in a language they did not learn in their “early stage”.

According to the “Critical Period” theory, there is a window of time (early stage) when a second language is most easily learned. This theory has led many people to believe that learning a second language as a child is preferable. However, some findings have put this theory into question. Therefore, the fact that one might not be “fluent” in a language because they learned it later on in their life, is FALSE.


In this short video Dr. Choueiri, an associate professor of pediatrics at UMASS Medical School, discusses the fact that being bilingual has nothing to do with language delay.

Overall, there are many misconceptions when it comes to the effects of being bilingual, and these misconceptions vary widely. It is advised to verify our assumptions by doing some research, so we do not fall into this trap!

References

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022096510002079

https://www.hanen.org/helpful-info/articles/bilingualism-in-young-children–separating-fact-fr.aspx#:~:text=Bilingual%20children%20may%20say%20their,learning%20one%20language%20(5).

Get Help!

Do you feel like you want to improve your mental health but do not know how to? Do you struggle with finding accessible techniques that would ease your mental issues?



What stops people from getting help?

Getting help for your mental issues is one of the hardest steps anyone can choose to take. When it comes to getting professional help, plenty of things get in the way that discourages individuals from receiving the help they need. The main issue that stops people from getting the professional help they need is the stigma surrounding mental illness in our society and the stereotype that “people who see a therapist are crazy”. Another reason that stops people from seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist is how expensive the visits are and the fact that most insurance companies do not cover psychological treatments.

How literature, reading, and writing can help improve your mental health?

In the case of not being able to access professional help due to financial issues or the stigma surrounding it, people should turn to alternatives that they can work on to improve their mental health. According to the South African College of Applied Psychology, “Reading has been shown to put our brains into a state similar to meditation, and it brings the same health benefits of deep relaxation and inner calm. Regular readers sleep better, have lower stress levels, higher self-esteem, and lower rates of depression than non-readers.” Another alternative could be writing, according to an article written by Deborah Siegel-Acevedo, “Expressive writing can result in a reduction in stress, anxiety, and depression; improve our sleep and performance; and bring us greater focus and clarity.” With that being said, reading and writing can have great effects on an individual’s mental health.

Read literature that relates to your mental struggles.

Book recommendations:

  • If you are struggling with battling your trauma, read The Body Keeps the Score.
  • If you are struggling with burnout, read Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.
  • If you are struggling with being highly sensitive, read The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You.
  • If you are struggling with anxiety, read Hope and Help for Your Nerves: End Anxiety Now.

Write down your feelings!

I won’t say that writing is therapy, but for me, the act of writing is therapy. The ability to be productive is good for my mental health. It’s always better for me to be writing than vegetating on some couch.

-Raymond E. Feist.

Questions for further discussion:

-Have you ever used writing or reading to improve your mental health?

-What alternative techniques do you know that work for improving mental issues?

Is being bilingual always a good thing?

Were you ever talking with a friend and your tongue slips a word in a different language? Or were you ever in a meeting and forgot how to say a simple word in every language you know? Well, I want to assure you that you are not alone!

My personal experience

Around four to five years ago, when I was in tenth grade specifically, I participated in the annual AUS Model United Nations (MUN). I wanted to get out of my comfort zone and practice public speaking among large groups of people. The conference day came and I was welcoming it with full confidence. I was prepared beforehand and had my speech precisely written down on a piece of paper and well memorized. The organizers put us in the designated rooms and we began the debate. To me, everyone seemed so much more confident, clear, and prepared than I was. However, I had to overcome that thought quickly and without thinking, my hand was raised in hope to get a turn to speak. Once the moderator chose me, I stood up and got myself ready to give the best speech I ever wrote.

It all went well and everyone was closely listening, nodding their heads, and looking at me with amazement as I was presenting my argument in a professional and persuading manner- at least that’s what I thought! I barely stuttered and as I approached the end of my speech, I opened the opportunity for questions. Those questions were where it all went downhill. One of the delegates challenged a part of my argument and I had to refute his claims. I believed I was doing a good job until I got defensive and accidentally used the Arabic word “يعني” which translates for “like”. Everyone stared at me and this is where my heart sank and I realized I messed up. However, I ignored what happened and continued to argue. As I got back to the flow of talking, I fell for the same unprofessional mistake, again! I was trying to say “but” while arguing but accidentally said “بس” in Arabic. This time I knew I couldn’t just let it pass. I stood there silently, almost crying, hoping that some miracle saves me from this embarrassment. A few awkward seconds later, the moderators laughed it off, assured me that it was okay, and asked me to sit back.

Today, this is just an embarrassing or funny moment that I recall and tell people about. However, during that time, it was very frustrating and in fact one of the reasons for not winning a certificate, regardless of my efforts. In fact, I stopped participating in MUN ever since that minor incidence as I was afraid that my speaking skills are not good enough. I did not understand how that happened because I thought I was competent in both languages; Arabic and English.

The Research on it

After the incident, I went back home, cried a little, and came across an article that explains it all. Miguel in “Does being bilingual make you smarter?” discusses the downsides of being bilingual, regardless of the benefits that almost everyone agrees on. It highlights that the brain of a bilingual person is overwhelmed with the knowledge of both languages, resulting in weaker verbal skills. In other words, a bilingual person is more prone to forgetting words from both languages or remembering it in one language while speaking the other. Although this could be frustrating or even could cost you doing bad on a job interview or a school assembly, we can’t disregard the benefits of being bilingual.

To read more on this issue, you can check out these articles: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4349351/#:~:text=It%20is%20not%20surprising%20that,Cobo%2DLewis%2C%202007).

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/publications/observer/obsonline/the-challenges-of-being-bilingual.html

A funny video that sums up the struggle:

Questions for discussion:

  1. Were you ever put in a situation where being bilingual was not in your favor?
  2. How do you think one could over come the challenges of being bilingual?